Should I Stay Or Should I go?

We all love our first homes but eventually there comes a point when it’s time to move on.  Life changes and so do our needs and wants in a home.

When you are ready for a new home but also have one to sell or rent-out, the stakes are much higher.

This time around, you’ve got more to think about, plan, and “get right” then when you bought your first home.

First up, how do you decide if you should move or stay in your current home.

The Clash said it best in their hit song, ‘Should I Stay Or Should I Go’ and that might be what you are feeling now that you’ve been in your home for a while, but how to know what the best decision is—should you stay or should you go?

Your cozy home now feels cramped. Your hip neighborhood now feels noisy. Your job and commute have now changed. Your oldest kid starts school next year. Your youngest kid graduated from college.

You change. Life changes.  And so do your needs and wants.

Moving can be a hard decision, both financially and personally, so determine if you’re truly ready for it.

Here’s what to consider before you start packing:

Your $$$ Situation

·      Equity in your home. If you have owned your home for five or more years, then you should have substantial equity. This is when your investment pays off and you can use this equity toward the purchase of your next home!

·      Financial Outlook. Your employment is steady, your income is improving, and your entire financial situation looks good now and down the road. This means two things: 1) You will get approved for a mortgage;  2) If you’re moving up, you can afford a higher mortgage payment.

·      Healthy Housing Market. If the market is stable or flourishing, as it has been, than it’s a good time to sell your current home. Homes priced right will move and that’s good if you’re a seller. The market is starting to become more stable, from the crazy competitive market it has been the past couple years, which means it may become easier to buy as well.

Your Needs & Wants

·      Location, Location, Location.  When you bought your current home, it probably felt like the perfect location for you, but maybe not now. So many variables go into what makes a good neighborhood for you and your family at this specific time.

It might not be a kid-friendly neighborhood and you want a better school district, or you changed jobs and now spend more time in the car, or maybe the neighborhood itself has changed. Maybe your quiet street is now too busy. Perhaps you want a stronger community feel or a more walkable neighborhood. Or you want a larger yard and more space between neighbors.

It all comes down to what you want now and where you picture yourself living. Plan to stay at your next home at least five years, and think about what your life is going to be like in that time.

·      Can’t or Won’t Remodel.  You love HGTV and can just imagine your home remodeled and updated with larger rooms and a gleaming kitchen. But you realize it’s only a fixer upper dream. Your yard is too small for an addition, you’re not zoned for it, or you just can’t live through the mess or cost. Plus, you never want to be the nicest house on the block. Moving can provide you with more sanity, more room, and you can ditch the rejiggering of the floor plan.

·      Space Invaders. You want to increase your home’s size since your family is growing OR you want to downsize since your kids are gone. Whatever the direction, you’ve realized the size and space of your home doesn’t work for you and your family anymore.

You want space for toys (yours and theirs!) and to say good-bye to cluttered, cramped rooms.  Or, you don’t need 4 bedrooms anymore and want a more manageable home and yard. Space needs can change dramatically in a short period of time so plan accordingly for down the road.

·      Green Acres. Homeowners either love big yards or hate them. Have you figured out what you like? Yard space can be a wonderful addition to your home — for entertaining friends, for kids, for dogs, for gardening, for just getting some fresh air. Even a small patio or deck or even a nearby park may be what you are looking for next.

If you don’t want to mow every Saturday or don’t have enough privacy between you and your neighbor’s yard, and it’s nagging you. Every. Single. Day … then it’s time to move.

·      Life Changes.  Where you live affects your life and vice versa … your life will affect where you should live. If you’re a growing family, a newly single parent, or empty nesters, you want a home that reflects you and your new needs.

A condo unit and all of its amenities were perfect for you when you were on the go with travel and work. But maybe you’re more settled now and ready for a single-family home to take care of and spend time in with family and friends.

Or maybe you’re down-sizing and tired of the responsibilities of your single-family home. You’re at a point in your life where you want to focus on other things like travel and low-maintenance condo-life seems appealing.

Sometimes you can anticipate upcoming life changes that will happen in the next few years. It’s good to be prepared and perhaps plan an earlier move. Timing can make or break the affordability of certain homes.

As always, I love to hear from you and help you in any way I can.  Contact me if you’d like to talk more specifically about your situation and whether it’s best to stay or go.  I’ll always be honest with you and never just try to sell you another home.  Sometimes the home you already have is good enough with some tweaks and maybe my list of vendors, contractors and fixer-uppers, can help you stay put!  

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I'm Danielle and I love helping people in NH, easily and affordably 'right'size' from home that no longer meet their needs to homes that better fit their current needs and lifestyles.

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