What Move-Up and Downsizing Buyers Need to Ask Themselves FIRST

When you are ready for a new home but also have one to sell or want to rent-out your current home, the stakes are much higher. This time around, you’ve got more to think about, plan, and “get right” then when you bought your first home.

For this home purchase, you want to be MORE methodical and purposeful than when you bought your first home.

That’s why you should start thinking about buying your next home well before you need to be in that new home, ideally at least a year.  It will be time well spent since it allows you to fully understand all of your particular reasons for moving, and you’re less likely to make any regrettable decisions.

Before you even start looking, going to open houses, or anything else, you must first answer TWO very important questions:

1) “How long do I (we) want to live in this next home?” 

This is extremely important and has to be done FIRST—before you start looking online or spending each weekend house hopping!  Your answer will help you figure out all of your “must haves” and what you’re “willing to compromise on.”

Think about it … your answer of “how long” determines the answers to EVERYTHING else that follows when it comes to buying your next home. It’s also how you’ll be able to narrow down your criteria list based on this answer.  For example:

•     If this is your “forever” home, maybe waiting a year to have more money to get everything you want is the answer.

•     If you plan on only living in this next home until you retire or until your toddler is off to first grade then maybe your next home is just a 5-year home with needs and wants that match that time period.

YOU get to decide how long. Once you do, then the answers to the rest will come more easily … but decide how long FIRST. 

2) What is the #1 driver of my (our) decision to move?”  A simpler way to say it, “Why are you wanting to move?”  This answer will help you decide what to compromise on and what you absolutely must have for this next home. See how it follows the first question?!  It can also influence the timing of your move.

Here are some examples:

•    If you are moving for the schools and your kids are starting school next year, you need to hustle. You’ll need to pick up your pace, but still not make any rash decisions … please!

•    If your kids aren’t school aged for a few years, then you can take this process more slowly, which we recommend. 

•    If you are moving for schools, then your commute time might increase or you might need to get a smaller-sized home than you initially wanted. These may be okay because your #1 driver for moving is “schools,” and you’ll compromise on the rest to get into that school district. 

“Moving for schools” is just one example of a #1 driver for your next move. You may want to move for other reasons, such as having a smaller home with less maintenance, to be closer to other family members, or to have better neighborhood walkability.

Whatever IT is, your answer will make it much easier to decide on what you won’t and what you can compromise on.  Remember, no matter your budget, buying your next home is a big game of give and take.

Answering the two questions above FIRST — before you ever spend a Sunday at open houses –will make the rest of this process much more effective and successful.

Take as much time as necessary on answering these two questions, even well BEFORE you’ve made the decision it’s time to move.

Picture Your Dream Home

Now that you’ve answered these two first questions and are very clear on your answers, the fun can start!

It’s time to brainstorm. Make sure to include anyone who is going to live in this next home. You want their input on what they would like to have this time and what they really don’t want to deal with ever again. Some things may be more cosmetic that can be changed easily in a new home, but it’s still good to get it all written down somewhere.

Here’s some help with your brainstorming:

What don’t you like about your current home? 

This is beyond your #1 driver for moving (see above). You know what nags at you, right?  Maybe it’s lack of storage, maybe it’s not enough yard space.  These are things that you aren’t moving FOR, but want to make sure you aren’t constantly being annoyed about in your next home. 

We also recommend walking around your home and neighborhood with fresh eyes to really see the pros and cons.

Some ideas to get you thinking when looking at your current home: layout is not open concept or layout is too open concept; busy street; too much or too little yard; too many stairs or levels; lack of kitchen counter space; not enough storage space; no parking; no garage; no walkable conveniences so need to drive everywhere; noisy neighborhood with too many late-night restaurants; too far from neighbors or too close to neighbors; too much of a fixer-upper; too old; too modern, etc.

What do you need now that you didn’t before? What about 5 or 10 years from now (or however long you’ve decided you will own this next home)? 

Everyone (and every family) is at different stages of their lives with evolving needs and wants. This next move should address any new and upcoming stages.

Maybe now you need more space for entertaining, a home office, outdoor space to garden, a playroom, more bedrooms and bathrooms, more storage, better schools, a bigger kitchen.  Maybe you are downsizing and you need to make sure there are no stairs. 

Whatever YOU decide, make sure you’ve thought through everything that could possibly come up during the time period you plan on living in this next home. 

Also, don’t get caught up in what all your friends or any other family members say. Decide what’s right for you and only your immediate family and make your home-buying choices accordingly.

A word of caution:  No Open Houses!

Note that none of the steps above involve you looking at homes or wasting time going from open house to open house all day on Sunday.  Wouldn’t you rather be brunching?

This is the “thinking stage” of buying a home.

If you start looking at homes too early in the process, it could cause MAJOR problems. 

It’s exciting to see homes, but truly, you’ll be doing yourself a disservice and get side-tracked if you start looking at homes too soon.  That time will come, but not yet. 

If you follow these steps, looking for a home will be much more fun and rewarding.  So, resist the temptation and just think and talk about the questions above.  That’s all you need to do in this first step. 

It may not feel like you are making progress because you aren’t “doing” anything, but taking time out to think and plan your reasons for a move will make the next three steps so much more enjoyable. 

If you are thinking of moving to another home, I’d love to help.  Email me a few months or even a year before you want to go.  Especially when you are buying and selling at the same time, it takes some planning to get it all to happen at the same time, without having to hold on to both homes for too long or end up without a place to go.  Plus, it’s so crucial to get your next home choice perfect.  This all takes a little while, so email me well before you are ready to go so we can be methodical about

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